How to Overcome Your Resistance to Change!
By Michaiel
In life, one thing is constant… change is going to happen! Everyone desire change and change is inevitable; so why is it difficult for so many people? The process of change in our lives can lead us toward growth and fulfillment if we learn how to cooperate with this unyielding force. When we partner with this force of evolution we can take a quantum leap in our lives. In this article you’ll discover why you resist change and learn four secrets to moving beyond resistance and creating positive change in your life.
When we reach for change, a part of us naturally recoils and resists. If the recoiling is stronger than our reach, we experience stagnation. If we resist change too often we experience struggle, frustration and procrastination. , It is only when we accept that change is inevitable that we can build an alliance with it and experience greater freedom and success.
The 1st Secret:
Seek growth rather than change. Growth is the process of reaching for something new while releasing the old. Growth always leads to positive change in our lives. Whether a new relationship, a new belief or a new experience, growth leads to genuine change as it shifts from the old to embrace the new. Growth is the foundation of evolution and challenges us to become more in some area of our lives. Growth always produces change; but change does not always produce growth. Growth is about evolving and becoming more of who you are meant to be.
Tip: Are the changes you desire about becoming more? Look at the changes you want to make, to determine if they are a growth choice (becoming more) or a fear choice (becoming less).
The 2nd Secret:
Genuine Change involves emotion. Some people seek only physical change. They want to change the physical aspects of their lives without changing the feelings. Erroneously they think a change in the physical form will bring about a change in their feelings. When change is only about changing the physical (new haircut, wardrobe, mate, house, etc.) personal growth is limited and change is temporary. However, when change is made at an emotional level, growth is produced and the physical form begins to change effortlessly and without struggle.
The foundation for permanent change begins within our emotional nature. Our emotions provide the motivation and they must change before genuine change can occur. Our ego is concerned with changing on the outside and our soul wants to change and heal the feelings on the inside. When you begin inside out, change flows naturally and with less resistance..
Here is an example; A client of mine was “stuck” in a relationship. The feeling of being powerless was a pattern that haunted him for years. He attempted to fix this problem by changing the person he was dating every six months. (Changing the outside). He never changed the feelings that attracted those relationships in the first place. Once he understood that the feelings needed to change, he quickly attracted a new relationship with someone who reflected his feelings of being powerful.
The 3rd Secret of change:
All Change Produces Chaos! This is the most powerful of all the secrets combined. Chaos and change always function together. It isn't change that you resist, it's your ego’s attempt to avoid chaos that creates resistance. When change happens it is always accompanied by chaos. Chaos can be either light or dark and is a vital energy to the process of every change.
We may yearn for change and recoil from its chaos simultaneously. We have been taught to believe that chaos is bad and to be avoided, yet even the most incredible changes we desire: (i.e., getting a job, a promotion or starting a new romance) will also produce chaos! Change is messy and the ego is challenged to accept it because it looks less than perfect.
The tug-of-war between our ego and our soul creates resistance to change. Life is not to be controlled (especially by our ego) - it is to be mastered by our soul. We can influence the direction of change when we let go of control, embrace chaos and learn to dance with the unpredictability of change.
The chaos of change is energy moving from one form to another. How we tolerate chaos influences the outcome of change, be it positive or negative. For instance, when you mix fear with chaos, change becomes negative, producing anxiety and frustration. On the other hand, when you mix hope and trust with chaos the energy can lift to excitement and joy. Anxiety, frustration, excitement and joy are all chaotic emotions and influence the change you want to make.
Chaos is neutral and is a part of every change. This truth can help you relax and stop worrying that you might be doing something wrong. It’s natural to feel chaotic when you experience change in your life. If you don’t feel chaos then you aren’t really changing. Big changes produce lots of chaos, small changes produces a little. So let chaos be a part of your life as a natural part of change. Trust yourself to know that it won’t last forever and is living proof you are in the midst of changing.
The 4th Secret:
Focus on creating a positive outcome by visualizing your future self. How often do you think about what you don't want to happen versus what you do want? This only attracts more of what you don’t want! To make changes while in the throes of chaos, focus on the future of how you’d like the changes to occur in your life.
Learn to focus your mind with guided meditation. In a state of meditation you can visualize your future self. Find a relaxed position, close your eyes and take in several deep breaths to help relax your body and focus your mind. Begin to imagine yourself in the future with the changes you desire in your life. Think about how you will feel once you’ve created the positive changes in your life. Your subconscious mind can begin to help you create the changes you desire.
Don’t wait to see what the future holds, rather create what you want the future to be in your mind. The more emotions you add to your vision of change, the quicker those changes will manifest. Repeat this on a regular basis at least once a week. You will begin changing the course of your future by using the power of your imagination. As you implement these four secrets, you will end your resistance and harness the power of change to become the master of your life.
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Bio-Michaiel Patrick Bovenes is a creative writer, author and professional speaker and teacher. He has a popular series of guided visualization meditations, he calls, "Soul-utions". He offers classes and words of wisdom in many articles published in various magazines worldwide. He currently resides in San Francisco, CA.
